He left his child to be with me

Valerie
Norfolk, UK

My partner and I met when we were 17. We were both each other’s first loves. Thing didn’t work out perfectly so I split up from him a year later, then moved away.

What I didn’t know is that he had been trying to find me for 33 years. Then last June, he found me on Facebook.

I was soooo happy. It was like we never left each other. We had an amazing long distance relationship for 11 months, then he moved to live with me. The sad thing is that he gave up his job and couldn’t see his young son anymore. They used to see each other often. He left his child so that we could be together.

Since he’s been with me, he’s been really unhappy since I live in the country and he’s used to the city life. Not to mention how much he misses his son. I don’t know what to do because he wants to move back to the city again. We both love each other very much but we just don’t know what to do. Please help.

Our Relationship Advice to You

Can you both move?
by: Rendiva

You really haven’t told us why he left everything to move to you (well, besides love). Why can’t you move to the city? Without knowing what your situation is, it seems like he gave up a ton of his life to be with you. Is it possible that you make a similar gesture and move for him this time?

Obviously, there could be a million reasons why you can’t, but have you ever considered something half-way? Perhaps you own your house. Maybe you can rent it or even sell it. Maybe you have an awesome job that’s way better than what he can do. Can you telecommute?

It’s sad when a life-time love like this gets ruined by stupid old circumstance. If you really want to save it, then you might have to sacrifice…

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