Does knowing how to be mysterious really make a difference in attracting a man?
Have you ever met a guy who knew exactly how to be mysterious and fell for him right away? The truth is, people are a very curious bunch. Any time you can be a puzzle to a guy, he can’t help but be sucked into your vortex.
Also, consider what normally happens in a dating situation: you both sit down riddled with nervous energy and end up spilling your entire life’s story including all of the really gross, dumb, and pathetic parts in the first hour. Now you’re left with a lifetime of nothing to talk about if you’re able to keep him around.
Don’t ever give away your whole life story! The biggest part of how to be mysterious is to give him just enough information so that he will crave to know more. How many years did it take you to live your life up to this point? Well, the only answer is all of them. Can you really condense the entire history of your life over coffee?
That’s pretty sad.
He’ll think so too and you will have done nothing to make him feel attracted to you. So how does someone learn how to be mysterious?
A great place to start is by learning something mysterious. Have you ever considered that you can deeply influence a man’s attraction for you with simple hypnotic tricks? No, we’re not talking about waving a pocket watch in front of his face, “You are getting very sleepy…” We’re talking about simple things that you can do and say that talk directly to his subconscious.
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In the mean time, you can be mysterious by learning some basics on creating mystery…
The more you can talk about the tiny, fascinating aspects of interesting subjects, the less you give away about yourself. What you do when you’re completely descriptive about things is show that you are smart, creative, and really able to enjoy everything about your life. Isn’t that an amazing goal?
Think about it. What if you went on a date with a guy who travels a lot and all he says is, I went here. I went here. And then I went here. Yawn! What if instead he gets really in depth on how he felt connected with the people of that country when he helped a little boy carry his lamb to market. Adorable, right? Which of these guys is most likely to get a second date? Which one understands how to be mysterious? The one who shows an interesting and intriguing side of himself.
The same applies to you, sister. People who are 100% present in every situationsee much more stuff and are much more interesting to talk to. From now on, really take in the experiences surrounding you. Feel the feels, smell the smells, hear the sounds. Feel the emotions!
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Dont give away your whole story
Ya know what always sucks about big Hollywood movies? They explain every possible thing to you. Thats fine when you need some mindless entertainment, but the films that tend to win awards are the ones that leave you thinking. They leave you so intrigued that you simply have to see the film again and when it comes out on DVD, you just have to own it.
Would someone ever write a screenplay about your life? You might be surprised. With a good enough surprise in the ending, anyone’s life can be interesting if it can just be mysterious.
Be vague when you talk. Make statements so unexplainable that he has to ask you questions. Start talking to people like they’ve known you all your life. Stop going into elaborate back stories to explain how you ended up stranded in the desert. When you start a story with, We were running out of water he will have no choice but to ask how you got there in the first place.
People who tell stories in a disjointed way are instantly charismatic because they hold your attention. By not giving the back story that explains it, they are instantly gaining rapport by subtly stating, You’ve know me so well that you already understand how these things happen to me.
You’re thinking it may make you sound crazy, but people who tell their stories in an obvious way are dull and uninspiring.
Never answer a direct question
Elusive people are maddening. They will always be mysterious in the worst moments. They are difficult to talk to and give you that feeling that nothing is ever what it seems. They are also really fun to hang out with. Let’s say a guy asks you how old you are and you answer with a simple 25. What have you accomplished there? Nothing. You may have even jeopardized getting to another date because that might somehow be too old or too young for him.
What if instead you tell him playfully in an aristocratic tone, My word a gentleman would never ask that of a lady! Or what if you answered with, Old enough to know better.
Attraction accomplished! What did that even mean? Who cares!
The more playful you can keep your interaction with a man, the more he will crave your free-spiritedness. The more he’ll wonder about you. Trust me girls, this is exactly the way you want him spending his free time.
Ask all the questions
If you really want to know how to be mysterious, keep him talking the whole time. You can have great conversations simply asking him about whatever hes talking about. Questions like, “How did that make you feel?” and ”Oh my god, what happened next?” or “What did it look like?” will keep the topic on him the whole time.
What’s really great about asking a lot of questions is that he walks away thinking, Wow! Shes a great conversationalist! and then he’ll realize he doesnt know a thing about you. Then you’ll really have him hooked.
When trying to seduce a man, keep in mind: its always in what you don’t say that really grabs a mans attention. So if you’re interested in how to be more mysterious, just keep in mind: Less is More. When you find yourself rambling too much about yourself, switch it up and ask him a question. Michael Webb’s 1000 Questions for Couples is a great guide on where to start. The great thing is that you can pick out a few of your favorites and bust them out any time there is a boring lull in the conversation.
Silence is awesome when you’re creating intrigue! Only break the silence if its not working towards your seduction. Remember to hold your cards close and only give out information when he’s earned it.
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