Loved me, used me, Left me. The one night stand.
I went to an online to this Christian dating service, and one of the men (who went to my church) contacted me. We e-mailed back and forth for a bit.
I got an e-mail request to text him and meet him at one of the local casinos to listen to a band play. He told me he was a musician with a country type band so I knew we had the love of music in common.
I got there and he had been drinking a bit but I didn’t realize how much. I found him very attractive and I felt extremely lonely. My only daughter left that day. She had accepted a job in another state, and I felt very alone.
He decided that he wanted to come back to my apartment. We had a nice time talking; he said some inappropriate things about his libido, but I over looked them. He then said he wanted to kiss me. We ended up in my bedroom. Afterward, he appeared a bit cold and left.
I never heard from him, so I texted him a message and he replied back to me that he was really embarrassed about what had happened. He said that it wasn’t like him to do something like that and he blamed the alcohol. Although, he was able to drive home that night–go figure.
He is a truck driver for a living, so be careful on the road, ladies.
He told me never to mention what happened to anyone, and that he was moving on and really didn’t want to have anything to do with me again.
I was just sick, and my spirit was ripped to shreds. I only hope this person does not repeat his behavior again with any other vulnerable women. I warned him not to hurt anyone or bring his messes into the lives of innocent women. I still feel like a piece of garbage, small, vulnerable, and distraught.
It just feels so horrible being used, and I blame myself because I allowed myself to be put in this position. I am working on getting rid of the baggage from this situation I allowed.
Our Dating Advice to You
Try and see it as you both found some enjoyment that night.
It was an experience.
Nothing more came from it, and if he does have issues, isn’t it better it was only one night? Don’t be afraid of this happening again or let it stop you because it might. And when it does think.. “well good night- now whats next” and let go.