“Does he like me? I really want to know!”
…so there’s this guy
He’s perfect. It seems like he might, but you are dying to know, Does he like me? So many people get lost on the very first step of dating. You both think the other person is into you, but sometimes its hard to tell. He sends so many confusing and conflicting messages, you don’t know what to do.
You think he’s great. You like the way he makes you feel (sometimes!). He’s even in your dreams, but you’re afraid of embarrassing yourself by pursuing that guy because he’s so hard to figure out.
Chances are, if you’re this confused, he really is attracted to you. The whole ”dating ritual” between men and women is full of confusing undertones and bizarre rituals that neither one of you are even aware you are doing. So many loves get lost in the confusion
If you go through all of these attraction signs and you’re still not sure, then it’s time to take things into your own hands. Read the book The Art of Irresistible by one of our favourite writers for this site, Roberto Hogue. It’s time to really get what you want: this guy! Time waits for no woman and the longer you wait, the better chance that someone else will swoop in and bag your boy!
Does he treat you differently than other women?
Some guys are just incurable flirts. Hell chat up any girl he sees. Most guys only flirt with the one they are interested in. Pay attention to how he acts around other women. Does he say the same things to them as he does to you? Does he have the same kind of nervous shyness around them too? If not, you can bet hes attracted to you.
Men change around someone they like. Think of gorillas thumping their chest to impress a hot lady gorilla. Does he try to show off around you? Does he do weird things around you that he does not do around other girls? On the Does He Like Me Scale this is as close to a ten as you can get.
Is he super nice or super mean to you?
Compliments are obvious signs of attraction, but being mean?!! How does being mean show that hes attracted to you? It seems impossible, but watch any TV show about the mating rituals of mammals and youll often see the male being a jerk to the female. Its a very primal instinct that men have.
Does he insult you, but then always try to be around you? Is it obvious that hes interested in you, but then he says something mean to you? You can guarantee that most guys dont even realize they do this. But think about what this accomplishes in your mind: you cant stop thinking about him! You spend your days adding up all the nice things he does and then youre stuck analysing the mean things.
Mission accomplished! He has you confused and crazy. Does He Like Me Scale: 7.5
Is he always around?
You avoid people that you dont like. You hang out with your friends. You go out of your way to spend time with people youre attracted to. Same goes with the fell as. If he always seems to be around wherever you are, you can bet he likes you. If it seems like a big inconvenience for him to always swing by, its a great sign hes attracted to you.
Check his body language
We gravitate towards people we are interested in. Does he get a little too far into your personal space? Is he always leaning towards you? Does he touch you? Not that kind of touch! Does he bump into you or touch your back or arm when he sees you? This includes the mean touch like playfully trying to trip you or pushing you away.
Think about this: when someone pushes you, its usually in anger. If hes not angry then he’s obviously doing it for some other reason…
If you are tripped up wondering if a guy likes you, do yourself a favour and really learn body language. We all act a certain way when we are dealing with our feelings. We simply can’t hide it! Check out Body Language Flirting to know exactly what he’s thinking at any given moment. This book comes free with The Art of Irresistible and gives valuable insight on how to say everything without even saying a word. It also helps decode what he’s really trying to say!
Men are not the masters of body language that women are. They are not very subtle. Any time he touches you or takes a forward posture is a great sign of attraction.
Learning how to read this very powerful language will truly make you unstoppable! Not only that, you won’t embarrass yourself by going for guys who aren’t interested.
Eye contact
This can go in one of two possible directions. If hes shy he might avoid eye contact at all costs if he really likes you. If hes not shy, he will do his best to catch your eye. Try to get the shy guy to look you in the eyes. He’ll give away his feelings for you faster than anything. If hes not the shy type, stare him down. Sometimes its those small awkward moments that send you both into each others arms.
Read this great article on eye contact flirting to learn some great skills on using your eyes to say everything.
In the mean time, when you get caught in one of these stare-downs, try leaning towards him. If he leans in with you, youre in. Go for the kiss if you’re really feeling it! Which brings us to…
Mirroring
When we develop a closeness to someone, we unconsciously start to mirror their actions. As you talk to him, touch your ear (or hair or some part of your body) and if he repeats this action within a few minutes, hes showing his interest in you. It could be as simple as him always taking a drink soon after you do.
So he’s doing most if not all of the signs of attraction and the readings on the Does He Like Me Scale are through the roof. How do you get him to make the first move? The answer is that he NEVER makes the first move. Sure, he might one day come up to you and ask you out, but you made all the little first moves up until that point.
Show interest in him. Ask him questions about his interests. Touch him back. Compliment him for something and yes, be mean back to him! Of course if you really want to be a ninja about all of this, you live without the book, Rousing the Lion. Find out ways that you can be mysterious to him right away! If you’re really serious about bagging this guy, then you really need to bring out the big guns and stop waiting for something to happen.
If all else fails to bring that boy to action, you have to come right out and call him on it:
I think its weird that you havent asked me out on a date.
Whoa girl! No one has ever said that to him before! Even if he was on the fence about you, now he’s impressed. Not only that, you’re not really putting yourself that far out there for embarrassment. Even if he counters with, Because I dont wanna, you can answer with Hmmm, interesting. And he’s still in the hot seat!
If you make enough observations even the shyest guys will break down and ask you out. You no longer have to worry, ”Does he like me?” and get on with what you’ve wanted all along: an awesome relationship.