Sleeping With My Ex
by Jordan
(California)
I was with my ex for one year when he broke up with me. We stayed single without contact for about 9 months, then started hanging out and eventually hooking up.
About a month before I started talking to my ex again, I started hanging out with a friend and we started to date VERY casually. We hardly even kiss and have only seen each other in that capacity maybe 12 times in the past 6 months.
CASUAL FRIEND left for boot camp (2 months). My ex told me during this time that he wants to get back together, but I want to take things to the next level with CASUAL FRIEND and have ended things with the ex. I haven’t told CASUAL FRIEND the extent of everything with my ex, he just knows we’ve been hanging out.
Do I tell CASUAL FRIEND about sleeping with my ex? I don’t see a real need to hurt him if we weren’t exclusive… he never pursued anything serious with me… but I still feel a little guilty especially after what my ex said about me being a terrible person..
This is just really out of character for me and its been bothering me for a long time… I didn’t want to be hooking up with my ex, but I didn’t know how to end it? So do I tell CASUAL FRIEND about sleeping with my ex?
Why Ruin A Good Thing?
Answer: Not necessarily. Sometimes the truth does not serve any purpose especially when we are dealing with the feelings of a CASUAL FRIEND (did I get that right?).
If you know that you will not be with your ex ever again, just move forward and let bygones be bygones. You just need to make your intentions clear to your ex, and apologize if you seemed to be leading him on. Just make sure that you have made up your mind and don’t make a mess of the situation.
Casual friends should know their place anyway so don’t get too worked up about it.