What about our baby
by Me
(Michigan)
I am a 36 year old woman. I have been divorced for awhile and decided to try the online dating scene. I had a couple profiles and talked to a lot of different men and went out on a few dates.
Then I met Eric online. We talked for months and he begged me to go out with him. I finally met him for dinner in November. We had a good time and then we went back to talking until February.
We started seeing each other on a more serious basis. Spending nights together and meeting my kids. Things were going well. In fact I had never had such good chemistry with anyone.
About 3 months ago we talked about wanting a child and decided to try. I trusted and loved Eric so much I never seen this coming. I became pregnant and he was so happy. Things were going good until his family found out I was pregnant.
He told me he wanted to wait till the right time to tell his family. I trusted him and felt there must be a reason. Three weeks ago a former friend of mine who is nosey decided to contact Eric’s sister on myspace. She told his family I was pregnant. I didn’t know what was going on but that day he acted really funny. Later that night he texted me and said, “Will you have an abortion?” and “I want this over.”
I was in total shock. Two days before he was laying in my bed. I made him breakfast, all the lovey dovey and he even played with my kids outside. A complete 360. I was so hurt. I tried to call, he changed his cell number, So I wrote his sister and asked her was this a family thing. Why would Eric do this? She told me he had some oxygen loss at birth and that he had the mind of a 15 yr old. She said he hid it well. I have never seen this side.
I told her of the man I knew. She was like “Wow! I didn’t think he could love like that.” She talked about how happy he was on the phone with me and how excited she was to meet me. That he had not brought a girl home for 13 years. I told her how much I loved him and that I would accept him no matter what. She told me he couldn’t be a father and husband. I said that the man I knew could and that he is independent. He works, makes rent and car payments.
Anyway, I tried to contact him telling him how much I loved him and I accepted him the way it was. About 2 days ago, I got a message with his phone number from some dude. He had been messing with some chick on myspace and the boyfriend got mad and told me since he thought I was still with Eric. When I texted it, he tried to tell me his name was Brad. Finally, he simply replied to me, “I DONT LOVE U, I DONT MISS U AND NO WE CANT START ANEW.” He told me to find someone else and please move on because he has.
I decided in my own mind that he was either scared or his family did this. So for the last 2 weeks, I have waited hoping he would come back. I dont see how he can throw this away. He told me I was the best girlfriend he ever had. We were so happy.
Anyway he got on his myspace and seen a note I wrote him a week ago. You see after the texts of him telling me I dont love you, I didn’t want this baby, I don’t miss you, how can I be with someone I don’t love and etc., I told myself I would just disappear and see what happens. He didn’t realize that note was old and he sent me a message. It read “HEY I HAVE TOLD U OVER AND OVER I DONT LOVE U I DONT MISS U AND NO WE CANT START THIS OVER. YOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL LOVE U, BE THERE FOR YOU, CAUSE I DONT.” He said please move on as I have moved on. Well I texted him back, telling him hey that message was before we texted and that me and the baby are out of his life for good. His reply was “Thank You.”
I have two close female friends. One tells me this guy is a piece of crap and I need to forget. The other one went thru this with her first baby, She waited for him. He did come back. So I’m torn up on what to do. I love Eric and I don’t know what to think. I told him he wouldn’t find someone to love him the way I do and his reply was how do I know I won’t find someone else to make me happy? I also found out he was talking to other girls online most of the time we were together. Any advice on this?