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My one true love suddenly falls apart

My one true love suddenly falls apart

by Mrs. Serrano
(Philippines)

he wont talk to meMy story is quite different from the usual because for me, there’s no acceptable reason why we should end it. Just to give you a little background of our culture in terms of having a relationship in my country, whenever someone enters a relationship, it is really important that parents should meet the boyfriend/girlfriend of their children and would be very open and welcome to meet them.

So that’s the main problem of our relationship. From the very start I knew that his parents, not exactly both parents but only his mother is very strict in terms of having a relationship. My boyfriend has a matriarchal type of family, which means that his mother is the head of the family. His mother is always the one that should be followed whatever decisions comes from her. His father is just like merely a shadow or puppet being manipulated by the mother.

My boyfriend’s mother which is called by the name Connie is super religious, like she attends mass three times a week and also a member of a church organization. And with that kind of faith in God, I do believe and expect that she has a really good character and so I just treated her objections on our relationship as a responsible mother for his son’s future not to be destroyed.

But several months had already passed. Come to think of it, my boyfriend and I are already in the right age(17-18) to commit in such relationship. Still nothing changed her mind and she is still against our relationship. It’s unfair to my family since on my part we’re legal, but on his family we’re illegal.

It hurts a lot because we dated only a few times in our almost 2 year relationship. Whenever there’s an important occasion we can’t be together. Still I remained to accept that condition and hope that the time will come that his mother will finally be open minded to accept normal things.

Also our communication is limited because only in school we can freely talk, but whenever he’s at home, we can’t even text. So that day came that my mother, Emily, decided to speak with Connie to convince her and widen up her mind. I hoped for a good result, but ended in a big failure because to my surprise, Connie talked insolently to my mother.

Since that incident, Connie decided to transfer my boyfriend to another school and another location. I pity my boyfriend because he needs to be enroll on a new course, another four years course. I don’t really see any reason why his mother totally objects to our relationship. She hasn’t even met me personally and doesn’t know anything about me.

Now we decided to officially end it, because his mother doesn’t give him any money, became much more strict, and is always watching him. I’m too depressed to go on. I always cry a lot. I can’t even sleep. I always think about him and his condition with his family since his family is kind of a rusted metal in terms of their attitudes.

It feels like the good times we shared, the real love we have and the dream we made to be together in the future turned to waste just because of his mother’s fucked up principles! >:?( Now I’m not used to this life without him. I feel miserable. What should I do? He’s always on my mind, my love for him will not fade, that I know for sure. :?(((


 

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Don’t Let The “You’re so beautiful” Fool You

Don’t Let The “You’re so beautiful” Fool You

by Jessica
(North Carolina)

Well, my friend Lisa had her heartbroken and thought about dating someone she meets on the internet. Guess she got the idea from me, cause I’ve done this since I was 14. dating and relationships

Well she joined this dating site. And she found a guy who lived about eh, maybe 60 miles away from us and lives in TN. All he would ever do was talk about how gorgeous she was, every message he texted her was always something like “Damn baby, you’re fine” and “Did I tell you how gorgeous you are today?” and she thought “OMG! I found someone.”

So the planned to meet each other a few days later. I was asked to be there with her when they met. Lisa had told him before meeting that she was overweight and he didn’t care because he said he used to be 300 lbs.

Well, the day came for them to meet. He pulled up at her house, got out of the car and walked up on the car port to find me, lisa, her mom and another friend. And guess what?

He had a look of disgust on his face and didn’t even bother to look at her or any of us. He just had a looked down. Lisa asked if he wanted to go anywhere and he said sure, so I got in the car with them and it was AWKWARD AS HELL.

He wouldn’t speak, he just drove. We went to walmart because Lisa needed cigarettes, and he stayed in the car. She was freaking out like, “Oh god, he doesn’t like me.” And I was like, “I dunno dude.”

We went back to the car and she asked if he wanted to go to the park? Still another sure. So we went there, and still he wouldnt speak. I was the only one talking, and that was weird cause I’m the shy one.

We stayed there just sitting, having people stare at us. And I was like, “So do you like Lisa?”

He just shrugged.

Some guy walked over to ask how we were, and then finally the guy talked and ignored us! We decided to leave and when we got in the car, he started being an asshole.

He told Lisa she shouldn’t have lied to him and that she looks nothing like her pix. When that was 100% her. He only saw 2 or 3 pix of her before they met. Lisa got pissed, and he took us back to her house.

All he said was it was nice meeting you, and lisa “yeah….you too.” And he drove back to TN. Lisa ended up leaving her wallet in his car, and he spent $15 to mail it back to her. Thats the last they ever talked and now my friends paranoid that her pictures lie.

Don’t fall for a guy who is like “omg you’re so beautiful”. Looks are everything to them, one little imperfection will result in them being disgusted.


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Our Love and the Whole World Against Us

Our Love and the Whole World Against Us

by Blanca, 24
(Minnessota)

dating and relationshipsI am 24yrs old. My uncle is 26yrs old and we started dating since I was 14yrs old.

When he moved to a different state, we broke up. After he left, we still talked to each other but little by little we stopped talking to each other.

After few years, I went to visit him to discover he had a girlfriend and a baby. I realized everything was over and I started dating someone when I went back home. I got pregnant lived with my boyfriend for 5yrs. But our relationship was not great.

One day I decided to visit my family where my uncle was. The first day I saw him he said hi and hugged me . A lot of feelings came back. Then I saw that he was having a lot of problems with his now wife. She kicked him out of the house so he moved to my grandma’s house were I was I decided to not go back home. We talked. Feelings were still there. We kissed and started dating again.

Nobody knew.

After a while, we had our first night together and we slept together. One day, grandma said, “Let’s get a bigger apartment.” So we did and me and him shared a room with my baby. His brother is in jail so someone that knew my uncle and somehow knew me, ended up in jail at the same place were my other uncle is. He mention that me and my uncle were dating. Now everybody knows my grandma made us say the truth. She was crying. My grandpa was mad. They said for us to decide what to do and let them know.

We still sleep in the same room but the problem is that my uncle in jail is tired of the guy telling him a lot of things so they are setting up a fight. If that happens, they will move him to another facility were my grandma won’t see him and he will do more time. He said it is our fault.

My uncle and I talk about it but we always end up saying that we can’t be away from each other. We did for so many years and our feelings were still there so now we don’t want to be apart.

Please somebody, tell me what to do! We need help! Our kids, family, and everybody is in the middle. People say we are being selfish and only caring for us and not our kids (he has two kids).

His ex-wife wants him back but he doesn’t want to. We all live in the same building. We need some advice from someone and I’ve always loved this site. Thank you.

 


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Texting Too Much?

Texting Too Much?

dating and relationshipsby luvprec01
(Vero Beach, Florida)

Been on three dates with this guy. Had a brief kiss on the second date (dinner at his home) and a long kiss on the third date. He is planning to come to dinner at my home and stay the night because he lives 1 hour away.

I text him everyday and sometimes he does not text me back till the next day his texts me sorry he has been busy so I don’t know if he is really interested in me.

Any advice? I normally text in the morning a brief greeting and at night is this too much?


 

Our Love Advice to You

A Game Worth Winning
by: Samantha

My concern is what is he really ‘busy’ doing?

If I were you I’d not text him unless he texts you first. Men enjoy the chase — don’t deprive him of that. Many men need more space than they care to admit. Women who come on too strong usually lose the man in the end.

Perhaps it’s a bit of a game. Play along — and you could both win.


 

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Dealing With a Stalker

Dealing With a Stalker

dating and relationshipsby tbsmilin
(Los Angeles)

This guy has been wanting a relationship with me. I told him I’m not in that same place. He pushes and intrudes his way in and is constantly doing nice things for me.

But he lies.

I Quit talking to him and he calls my girlfriends saying how worried he is about me, If he can’t get ahold to me he will call and ask them to give me some kind of message. He even went to one girlfriends church and asked them to pray for me. When he screw up and lies or something I find offending he will call and ask them what can he do?

What is his deal? Is he a sicko, nosey, keeping tabs, trying to gain the trust of my girlfriends? They think he is weird. What does that say about him? I need help dealing with a stalker!


 

Walk away from this guy
by: Roberto

This is the way supposedly “nice guys” weasel their way into your life. It seems innocent enough and sometimes it actually does work for him. But do you want a guy in your life that had to crawl in under the fence to capture your heart?

Pick a man who captivates you from the very beginning. Choose a man whom you feel drawn to. Don’t go for the guy who insinuated himself deep enough into your life that you one day woke up next to him.

Check out this article on the qualities of the perfect man and see how your stalker stacks up.


 

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He is Still a Virgin

still a virginHe is Still a Virgin

by Laura
(Adelaide)

I have been friends with this guy for a while and he had declared his love for me a while ago and I shot him down. Recently, I have been talking to him a lot more and I know I hurt him a lot. I don’t want to do it again but I’m not sure whether I want more then just friends with him? He’s really intimidating and I get so uncomfortable around him so I usually end up acting like a jerk. Continue reading

He Broke My Heart

He Broke My Heart

by Melanie
(New Jersey)

dating and relationshipsIt was late June of last summer. I was single, out everyday, not really looking and having the time of my life. I was out with one of my friends on the boardwalk and our plans changed when I got a phone call from my good friend and she asked if we wanted to go to a party. I said yes.

The white Hummer pulled up and me and my friend got in. After we partied the night away I ended up getting really drunk and he took me home. At the time in my life, I was a wreck and I guess he looked at me as a girl that needed help.

A week later I got a text from him and he wanted to take me along with some friends to his house in Voorhees. I said yes. This is where my life changed forever.

I hopped into his car and we drove an hour to his house. It was huge & he was rich. We spent time in his tv room and next thing you know I hooked up with him and we had sex.

It was something I’ll never forget. The best day of my life.

Ever since then we hungout everyday for the rest of the summer. We didn’t party so much though and he was older which I liked. And he was a Leo, very outgoing and protective of me.

He asked me out and that was the beginning of a very long journey. Nobody mentioned his name without saying mine.

By the end of the summer he applied to college but said I was different then other girls and he really loved me, so we could make it long distance and we did. During that time our emotional bond grew strong.

He told me where he was, what he did and kept close contact. I loved him with all my heart. For Thanksgiving, Christmas and spring break he came to Jersey and came to me. Everytime I saw him it was like when Ally and Noah kissed in “The Notebook.”

He always promised me he would never leave me and said we would be together forever. Silly me, believed him. And times got tough this summer.

The year I was with him, we did fight but we always pulled together. From May to June, Cameron slept over every weekend. From June to August, he lived with me. We did everything together. Ate, slept, showered and had the best times. We fought here and there but I never thought it was unhealthy.

Something he would do in our fights is put all the blame on me and I would end up asking for forgiveness. From the end of August til now his parents rented an ocean city house that he stayed at. I slept over when I could. But a fight ended up in devastation.

We were in his car and I complained a little about how I was trying to lose weight and I didn’t wanna eat dinner past 6. He was mad at me all the sudden. When we got back to his house he stormed inside with the door shutting in front of me. I went inside and he wanted to take me home. When we drove about 10 blocks, I asked him why and he said I was bitching and he began to mock me. I got really upset and walked out of the car.

I was stranded, and he wouldn’t answer his phone. I walked 10 blocks back to his house to just get kicked out. I walked 32 blocks till I got to the bridge and got picked up.

When I got home he texted me saying he couldn’t do this anymore and that this had to be done and he’s sorry. He said it’s for the best. And that was it.

After that no phone calls, no nothing until later in the night when he said we could just be friends but never see each other because it’s too painful. He says he still loves me and cares about me but can’t take me back. That was it and three days later still nothing.

I’ve been a wreck and can’t accept he’s gone. He broke my heart. His things are here but he hasn’t come to get them. He leaves for college at the end of the month. I feel like I can’t live without him and if he truly loved me he should come back.


 

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What about our baby

What about our baby

by Me
(Michigan)

bath stuffI am a 36 year old woman. I have been divorced for awhile and decided to try the online dating scene. I had a couple profiles and talked to a lot of different men and went out on a few dates.

Then I met Eric online. We talked for months and he begged me to go out with him. I finally met him for dinner in November. We had a good time and then we went back to talking until February.

We started seeing each other on a more serious basis. Spending nights together and meeting my kids. Things were going well. In fact I had never had such good chemistry with anyone.

About 3 months ago we talked about wanting a child and decided to try. I trusted and loved Eric so much I never seen this coming. I became pregnant and he was so happy. Things were going good until his family found out I was pregnant.

He told me he wanted to wait till the right time to tell his family. I trusted him and felt there must be a reason. Three weeks ago a former friend of mine who is nosey decided to contact Eric’s sister on myspace. She told his family I was pregnant. I didn’t know what was going on but that day he acted really funny. Later that night he texted me and said, “Will you have an abortion?” and “I want this over.”

I was in total shock. Two days before he was laying in my bed. I made him breakfast, all the lovey dovey and he even played with my kids outside. A complete 360. I was so hurt. I tried to call, he changed his cell number, So I wrote his sister and asked her was this a family thing. Why would Eric do this? She told me he had some oxygen loss at birth and that he had the mind of a 15 yr old. She said he hid it well. I have never seen this side.

I told her of the man I knew. She was like “Wow! I didn’t think he could love like that.” She talked about how happy he was on the phone with me and how excited she was to meet me. That he had not brought a girl home for 13 years. I told her how much I loved him and that I would accept him no matter what. She told me he couldn’t be a father and husband. I said that the man I knew could and that he is independent. He works, makes rent and car payments.

Anyway, I tried to contact him telling him how much I loved him and I accepted him the way it was. About 2 days ago, I got a message with his phone number from some dude. He had been messing with some chick on myspace and the boyfriend got mad and told me since he thought I was still with Eric. When I texted it, he tried to tell me his name was Brad. Finally, he simply replied to me, “I DONT LOVE U, I DONT MISS U AND NO WE CANT START ANEW.” He told me to find someone else and please move on because he has.

I decided in my own mind that he was either scared or his family did this. So for the last 2 weeks, I have waited hoping he would come back. I dont see how he can throw this away. He told me I was the best girlfriend he ever had. We were so happy.

Anyway he got on his myspace and seen a note I wrote him a week ago. You see after the texts of him telling me I dont love you, I didn’t want this baby, I don’t miss you, how can I be with someone I don’t love and etc., I told myself I would just disappear and see what happens. He didn’t realize that note was old and he sent me a message. It read “HEY I HAVE TOLD U OVER AND OVER I DONT LOVE U I DONT MISS U AND NO WE CANT START THIS OVER. YOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL LOVE U, BE THERE FOR YOU, CAUSE I DONT.” He said please move on as I have moved on. Well I texted him back, telling him hey that message was before we texted and that me and the baby are out of his life for good. His reply was “Thank You.”

I have two close female friends. One tells me this guy is a piece of crap and I need to forget. The other one went thru this with her first baby, She waited for him. He did come back. So I’m torn up on what to do. I love Eric and I don’t know what to think. I told him he wouldn’t find someone to love him the way I do and his reply was how do I know I won’t find someone else to make me happy? I also found out he was talking to other girls online most of the time we were together. Any advice on this?


 

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He won’t stop calling me

He won’t stop calling me

by Susan aka The Girl in that One Movie
(Florida)

dating and relationshipsThe picture on his profile was gorgeous! Great hair, ice-blue eyes. He looked like a snowboarding version of the Marlboro Man. I send him a flirt and he responded almost immediately. We exchanged a few emails and decided to meet up the next night.

We met at this adorable little Indian restaurant and I gotta say, I looked fabulous! 😉 He, on the other hand, looked like and older, shorter version of the picture in his profile. I don’t know why I didn’t ever talk to him on the phone because his voice sounded like one of the lollipop kids. Continue reading

In Love with my Uncle

In Love with my Uncle

dating and relationshipsby Sanjida
(Bangladesh)

My name is Sanjida. I am not in the age to fall in love… but I am in love just the same. The man I love is my uncle. It’s so bad to fall in love with an uncle. He is not old, he is young. Love is blind.

His name is Zahid and he is very a flirty person. I’ve been in love with him from 2 years but no one knows about my love except my aunty. My aunty is my best friend.

I am a simple girl, but nowadays when I look at his eyes, it says ‘I love you Sanjida.’

My mother has a doubt about me because whenever he comes to our house I always stay with him. That’s why she took my phone so that I can’t talk with him. His birthday is one day before mine. When his birthday came, my mother allowed me to talk with him. After that we again started to talk in the phone, then one day my aunty came and said that he is coming to our house.

He lives very far from our house and when he comes, he stays a month or more. Then again, I started to stay together with him. My mother doesn’t like him and she insults him.

I can’t say how I feel. I will say to everyone that Love Is Blind. The feeling of love is the most beautiful thing in the world. Love someone who loves you. It doesn’t matter the person whom you love. Best of luck for your Love life.

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Fooling Around

Fooling Around

by StuckInNC
(Charlotte, NC)

I met a guy online. We had our first date about 3 weeks ago. It was great.

He rented a boat, packed food, drinks, etc. complimented me all night, we have great chemistry and passion. He stayed at my house that night and we ended up “fooling around”. Continue reading