My one true love suddenly falls apart
by Mrs. Serrano
(Philippines)
My story is quite different from the usual because for me, there’s no acceptable reason why we should end it. Just to give you a little background of our culture in terms of having a relationship in my country, whenever someone enters a relationship, it is really important that parents should meet the boyfriend/girlfriend of their children and would be very open and welcome to meet them.
So that’s the main problem of our relationship. From the very start I knew that his parents, not exactly both parents but only his mother is very strict in terms of having a relationship. My boyfriend has a matriarchal type of family, which means that his mother is the head of the family. His mother is always the one that should be followed whatever decisions comes from her. His father is just like merely a shadow or puppet being manipulated by the mother.
My boyfriend’s mother which is called by the name Connie is super religious, like she attends mass three times a week and also a member of a church organization. And with that kind of faith in God, I do believe and expect that she has a really good character and so I just treated her objections on our relationship as a responsible mother for his son’s future not to be destroyed.
But several months had already passed. Come to think of it, my boyfriend and I are already in the right age(17-18) to commit in such relationship. Still nothing changed her mind and she is still against our relationship. It’s unfair to my family since on my part we’re legal, but on his family we’re illegal.
It hurts a lot because we dated only a few times in our almost 2 year relationship. Whenever there’s an important occasion we can’t be together. Still I remained to accept that condition and hope that the time will come that his mother will finally be open minded to accept normal things.
Also our communication is limited because only in school we can freely talk, but whenever he’s at home, we can’t even text. So that day came that my mother, Emily, decided to speak with Connie to convince her and widen up her mind. I hoped for a good result, but ended in a big failure because to my surprise, Connie talked insolently to my mother.
Since that incident, Connie decided to transfer my boyfriend to another school and another location. I pity my boyfriend because he needs to be enroll on a new course, another four years course. I don’t really see any reason why his mother totally objects to our relationship. She hasn’t even met me personally and doesn’t know anything about me.
Now we decided to officially end it, because his mother doesn’t give him any money, became much more strict, and is always watching him. I’m too depressed to go on. I always cry a lot. I can’t even sleep. I always think about him and his condition with his family since his family is kind of a rusted metal in terms of their attitudes.
It feels like the good times we shared, the real love we have and the dream we made to be together in the future turned to waste just because of his mother’s fucked up principles! >:?( Now I’m not used to this life without him. I feel miserable. What should I do? He’s always on my mind, my love for him will not fade, that I know for sure. :?(((