Is it too late?
by Rebecca55
(Queensland)
I dated someone for a few months and he started criticizing me so I went out and kissed somebody else. I told him just to piss him off because I felt mistreated. It was ridiculously immature by me as I should have just talked to him and told him I didn’t like it.
But instead I opened up a game…
The problem is he didn’t believe that I just kissed someone and he said he loved me and that this was another chapter in my life. I was actually devastated and haven’t stopped thinking about him for 3 years.
I’ve tried to let go but things remind me of him and he hates me now. I don’t know if I deserve this sort of pain or if I should tell him how I feel even though we haven’t spoken in a really long time and he might have another girlfriend now? Is it too late?
Our Dating Advice to You
It’s never too late!
There is nothing more flattering to guy than a girl showing up from his past and telling him how much you still think about him!
That said, I think you should get back in touch. There is one of three things that can happen:
1. He might still hate you and tells you this. This is great because you can check him off the list and know for sure that you don’t need to think about him any more.
2. He has a girlfriend. There’s not much you can do here, but by contacting him, you might just plant a seed. He might eventually dump her to try things again with you.
3. He’s available and interested. DON’T just pick up where you left off! Treat this as a whole new relationship. Talk about the past, but never again after you work through what happened. People can change a lot in three years. Give him all the chances you’d give a brand new guy.
This time, make sure you are COMPLETELY open and honest about your feelings. Don’t hold things in to the point you have to have another melt down…
Here is a great article on things to consider when getting back with your ex.